Reasons why family and friends of people who live with dementia in
long-term care facilities don’t report abuse and neglect
“There are 850,000 people with dementia in the UK, with numbers set to
rise to over 1 million by 2025. This will soar to 2 million by 2051. 225,000
will develop dementia this year, that's one every three minutes. 1 in 6 people
over the age of 80 have dementia.”
Of
the 850,000 statistics say that 300 thousand people are living in Care Homes
across the UK
So why don’t family and friends of people who live
with dementia in long-term care facilities report abuse and neglect?
(Well quite frankly
that’s an ambiguous statement because family and friends are
complaining, campaigners like BBC Panorama and Your Voice Matters are complaining – the Local
Authorities and CQC just aren’t listening and despite CQC Guidelines forbidding
sanctions Care Providers are still banning or imposing sanctions on those who
do complain.)
But why don’t people complain?
1) Ignorance
Like
many care workers, family members and visitors may not understand what
constitutes abuse and neglect. They may not know for example that the use of
physical restraints (such as recliners that prevent people from getting up) and
chemical restraints (such as the inappropriate medications) are considered
abuse. They may not know that speaking to elderly people in a way that
infantilises them is abusive, or that leaving them in wet or soiled
incontinence briefs is neglect.
2) Absence
Family
members might not witness abuse and neglect for several reasons
(a)
they may visit rarely or not at all for a diversity of reasons and therefore
don’t see what goes on,
(b)
they see a “sanitised” version of how their loved one is treated because things
are “different” when people visit
and/or
(c)
they are fed a load of tripe about the condition of their loved one by those
who are supposed to be providing care.
Sometimes
abuse or neglect and/or the symptoms of abuse or neglect are not immediately
apparent. Unless you take your mother to the toilet when you visit, for
example, you may not realize she needs to have her incontinence brief changed.
You may be told she is changed or toileted every two or three hours, when in fact
it’s once in the morning and once at night.
Unless
you dress and/or undress him yourself, you may not know your father has bruises
on his back, arms, and legs or if he is bedridden, that he has pressure sores.
You may not know your wife is woken up at 4 a.m. for breakfast or put to bed at
7 p.m. and given drugs to make her sleep – how would you if your visits are
always in the afternoons?
Abuse
and neglect may be hard to detect because they are often relatively easy to
hide, particularly when people have few or no visitors, or family members are
at a distance.
3) Denial
Some
family members retreat in denial. I can imagine and fully understand the mental
and emotional gymnastics that go along with that: “I wouldn’t leave Mom in a
place where she was being abused or neglected, and since I am leaving her in
this place, the care must be good otherwise I would be taking her out of
there.”
The
problem is, taking a loved one out of a facility means having to find a new
place with all the headaches that entails. Denial can be a form of
self-protection.
A
2016 survey, found that while 95 percent of long-term care residents say they
have been abused or witnessed the abuse of another resident, a whopping 70 per
cent of children of aging parents in long-term care facilities answered “not at
all likely” to the question “how likely is it that your parent has been
abused?” Meanwhile, 32 percent answered “yes” to the question “has your parent
complained being abused?”
4)
Fear
Families live
in fear of the repercussions that can befall them if they do complain. In 2016, it was reported that relatives of a
96-year-old dementia patient were stripped of the right to make decisions about
her care under a court order – after complaining about bruises on her body.
The
family were later told the care home and council were taking out a deprivation
of liberty safeguarding order – which bans them from moving her and gives
social services power of attorney over her care. The order is imposed where
officials feel they must restrict a patient's movement in their 'best interest'
and can only be challenged via the secretive Court of Protection.
5) Social Services
I don’t
know nor do I understand how a government department such as Social Services
can decide what is and what isn’t “in the best interest” for other people’s
loved ones. When, usually the Social
Worker involved has spent less than 2 hours with the Client who would have
spent a life time with their loved ones.
Yet they still feel they know best and they have the money behind them
to get the secretive Court of Protection to work in their favour.
Therefore, is abuse and neglect becoming the “norm” rather than the
exception?
I personally feel that systemic neglect and abuse of elderly
people who live with dementia in long-term care facilities is widespread in the
UK and around the world. Care workers
know about it, nursing home managers and administrators know about
it, and some family members of those who are neglected and abused know about it
too. Neglect and Abuse
of our elderly remains pervasive and, worse yet, they are swept under the
carpet.
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